She's 5 Years Older Than Me. Then I Saw the Korean Face Mask She Wears to Bed
At my son's engagement dinner, the waiter asked if we were sisters. Then he guessed I was the older one.
My son Danny got engaged this summer. In late August both families finally sat down together at the Italian place near our house, and his fiancée's mother, Mi-sook, flew in from Busan for it.
Halfway through the meal, the waiter looked at the two of us and asked if we were sisters.
"You must be the older one," he said to me.
Everybody laughed, so I laughed too. That night Danny's fiancée, Ji-woo, sent me the picture she'd taken before dessert. I put on my reading glasses and looked at it in the bathroom with the door shut.
Mi-sook is five years older than I am. In that picture I looked ten years older than her.
I'd been telling myself I looked fine for my age. I owned a whole drawer of creams that said so.
It Crept Up So Slowly I Kept Blaming the Lighting
Looking back, the signs had been there for about four years.




The concealer went first. I'd put it on at 7, and by lunch it had settled into every line under my eyes. I started checking the visor mirror in my car before I walked back into the school office.
Then came the jars. Retinol, peptides, a $140 cream a woman at the department store swore by. I'd use half of each one, decide nothing was happening and buy the next. The old ones stayed in the drawer, because throwing them out felt like admitting something.
At night I'd stand at the mirror with my fingers on my cheeks and push everything up half an inch. There I was. Then I'd let go.
I kept my camera off in staff meetings and told everyone our Wi-Fi was bad.
I put all of it down to being 56 and to bad lighting. The lighting in a school office is terrible, so that part was easy to believe.
If any of that sounds like you, please keep reading. I wish someone had told me this four years ago.
Then She Walked Into My Kitchen With a White Mask Stuck to Her Face
Mi-sook stayed with us that week. Around nine on Saturday night I was loading the dishwasher when she came in for a glass of water.
Her whole face was covered in wet, milky white gel. One piece over her forehead and cheeks, another across her chin and jaw. I dropped a fork.
"It's my collagen mask," she said, and tapped her cheek. "One night a week. I've been sleeping in these for years."
She came down to breakfast still wearing it, except now it had gone clear. All the white was gone. She peeled it off at my kitchen table, held it up like a piece of plastic wrap and patted whatever was left into her cheeks.
I was sitting two feet from her in daylight. At 61, after a night on my guest room pillow, her skin looked full and rested and a little wet. I don't know how else to describe it.
Ji-woo told me later it's a Korean collagen mask, and that her mother has worn them for as long as she can remember. I'd seen Korean face masks at the drugstore, the thin paper ones with eye holes that slide down your face after twenty minutes. Nobody had ever told me about this kind.
Why My $600 Drawer Never Touched What the Camera Saw
After Mi-sook flew home, I pulled out my drawer and read the backs of the jars for the first time in my life.
Half of them had the word collagen on them.
So I called Ji-woo, who watched her mother do this her whole life, and she walked me through it with a lot of patience. Here is the simple version.
Collagen is the firm, springy material that keeps skin looking full. As we get older, the body makes less of it. With less holding things up, creases form at the surface and pores start to look bigger.
A regular collagen molecule is big, which is why so much of a thick cream just sits on your face until your pillow wipes it off. I'd been waking up with grease on my pillowcase for years.
Korean collagen masks go about it another way, Ji-woo said. The good ones use low molecular collagen, broken into much smaller pieces, and the gel sheet holds it against your skin for hours. A cream gets rubbed on and forgotten.
She was straight with me about the limits, too. A mask is a cosmetic, and nothing you put on your face brings back what your body stopped making. What you get is skin that's been soaked for hours, and it looks plumper and smoother the next day.
I still wash my face and I still wear sunscreen. But I stopped expecting another jar to change what my camera picks up.
That's When I Ordered a Korean Collagen Mask of My Own
Korean face masks come in a hundred versions, and most of what I found online was those thin paper sheets. I wanted what Mi-sook had worn: two-piece hydrogel, something I could sleep in. Ji-woo found the one I ended up buying, the Collagen Glow Up Mask 2.0 by Quasi. It's formulated in Korea, and it was at my door that week.
Here's what's in it:
- 40g of collagen serum in every mask, with low molecular marine collagen made to absorb deeper and leave skin looking plumper and firmer.
- Galactomyces ferment filtrate goes after dullness and the look of large pores, and helps balance oil.
- Hyaluronic acid complex pulls moisture in at several layers, so skin stays soft and supple.
- One mask a week. Clean your face, place the top and bottom pieces and leave them on for 1 to 2 hours or until clear. Or sleep in it, like I do. If your box says something different, follow the box.
I do it at home, in bed, with nothing to book. The formula leaves out parabens, sulfates, fragrances and alcohol, and it's dermatologist tested, which mattered to me because half of that drawer made my cheeks red.
Quasi's site quotes a board-certified dermatologist, Dr. Yongsuk Lee: "One of the most effective non-invasive treatments I recommend to patients who want youthful, glowing skin in their 40s+."
Before my first mask I took two photos in the bathroom, one close-up and one of my whole face. I'm very glad I did.
What My First Night in the Mask Was Like
I was sure I'd last ten minutes. I sleep on my side, and I couldn't picture a wet sheet of gel staying on my face until morning.
Ji-woo told me to keep the box in the fridge, so at least it went on cold. Then it started sliding. I nudged the top piece back into place twice before it settled.
Going on
30 to 60 minutes
2 to 3 hours
Next morningIt wasn't the comfiest night of my life. I woke up around two and could feel it on my chin. But it stayed where I'd put it, and there was no cream on my pillowcase.
A few things I figured out over the next few weeks. Give it 20 or 30 minutes before you judge the fit, because that's about when it stops sliding. If it bunches up around your nose or mouth, a couple of small snips with scissors fix that. And if you can't stand the idea of sleeping in it, the directions only ask for 1 to 2 hours or until it turns clear, so the couch works too.
Day 1 to Week 8: What My Close-Ups Showed
I wore one every Sunday night and took a close-up on Monday morning, same spot, same bathroom light. It doesn't always go fully clear for me. Some Mondays the bottom piece is still a little cloudy, and I peel it off anyway.
Day 1
Week 2
Week 4
Week 8Illustrative images created for this story, not photos of a real customer. Your results may differ.
Then came the bridal shower.
It was at the end of October, and Mi-sook flew back for it. When she saw me she stopped, put both hands on my face and turned it toward the window.
"You look wonderful," she said. "You kept going with the masks?"
Then she pulled me in for a selfie. Same two women, same sides of the picture as the night of the dinner.
It's my phone wallpaper now. Danny asked what I'd done to my face, and I told him to ask his future mother-in-law.
Everyone's skin is different, and I can't promise what yours will do. I still have my lines. They look softer, and I've stopped checking the visor.
I Was the Last One to Find Out About This Mask
In a 4-week clinical study of 30 women using the mask once a week, 97% said their skin felt firmer, plumper and visibly younger, and 94% said it looked instantly more radiant and glowing.
"I love all Korean skincare and these masks work very well."
"I'm a 58 year old woman who has tried many products. I always found them to never live up to what they say they can do. Quasi on the other hand has blown me away. ... Once a week is my quasi pamper night."
"My fine lines are becoming finer and less noticeable. My kids are telling me how good I look and that I look like my wedding pictures (24 years ago)."
"I sleep with the mask on and when I see my skin in the morning, it truly glows. My husband commented on how pretty it looked, different he said."
"At 70 I've tried a lot of different "Miracle Results" 1000's of dollars down the drain. I was Surprised by the results. ... Im not sure if I'm glowing, but definitely going to continue using."
"The mask clearly actually absorbs into the skin rather than just sit on top looking greasy. ... there's definitely more moisture in my skin and it feels really unexpectedly soft"
If You Want to Try a Korean Face Mask, Start Here
The Collagen Glow Up Mask 2.0 is on Quasi's own site, and right now it's on sale.
Collagen Glow Up Mask 2.0 by Quasi: Buy 2 + Get 1 Free (12 Masks)
- 12 masks at $5 each, about three months of Sundays
- Free guide: How Korean Women Age in Reverse
- 30-Day Money-Back Guarantee
- Orders processed within 24 hours, excluding weekends and holidays, with tracking
This mask sold out 13 times last year.

Free Guide: How Korean Women Age in Reverse
Comes free with your order while the offer lasts. Normally $20.

Other Bundles
Buy 1 (4 Masks) is $30, was $60. Buy 3 + Get 2 Free (20 Masks) is $90, was $300.
Two Masks, Two Photos, 30 Days to Decide
Take your two photos today. Use up to 2 masks, then take them again. If you don't like what you see, you can send it back within 30 days of delivery, as long as no more than 2 masks have been used. Email hello@officialquasi.com to start. You pay return shipping, and Quasi's policy lists a 20% restocking fee on returned orders, so read the full terms first.
These are sale prices. Quasi lists the 12-mask bundle at $180 before the discount.
You shouldn't have to find out from a waiter.
I spent years and a lot of money on a drawer full of jars. A Korean collagen mask costs me about $5 a week. Take your two photos tonight, put on your first mask and see what the morning looks like.
